Prayer Triads

“And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Ecclesiastes 4:12

A Prayer Triad is a group of three men or three women committing to meet regularly to share with each other, encourage one another, pray for each other and hold each other accountable. While some churches practice accountability one on one or in groups larger than three, we think a group of three provides the intimacy of a smaller group with the benefit of multiple perspectives on each person’s strengths and struggles.

+ Who should participate in Prayer Triads?
Everyone should participate in a Prayer Triad. Scripture tells us that all people are sinful, are open to temptation and are capable of great sin. Therefore, we can all benefit spiritually from inviting others to hold us accountable.

 

+ How can I find a Prayer Triad?
We have found Prayer Triads work best when they are formed organically rather than through assignment. We encourage you to start by finding another person you think would be a good match; then, the two of you can find a third member. Good places to look for Triad members are in life group or through relationships that develop at church or in Sunday school. You can also ask others (friends, life group leaders, ministry leaders, elders, pastors) if they know of anyone that might be interested in joining a Triad.

 

+ What should a Prayer Triad do?
Meet regularly: Although each Prayer Triad determines its own schedule, we encourage Prayer Triads to meet between once a week and once a month.

“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” -Hebrews 10:24-25

Share deeply: Since these people are to be the people in the church that know you the best, you should be willing to share your joys and your struggles.

“So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.” -1 Thessalonians 2:8

Encourage one another: You should seek to encourage one another in your walk with Christ.

”Therefore encourage one another and build one another up.” -1 Thessalonians 5:11

Hold each other accountable: As Christians, we are called to be held accountable, and to hold one another accountable for sins and struggles.

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” -James 5:16

Pray for one another: We should not only share our joys and struggles with one another, we should also pray for one another.

”For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” –Matthew 18:20

 

+ Keys to a Successful Prayer Triad
Vulnerability: Prayer Triad members must

be intentional about sharing deeply with one another, including confessing deep sin to one another. Without vulnerability, a Prayer Triad is useless.

Trust: In order for your group to be vulnerable with one another, you must trust one another. Therefore, Prayer Triad members should commit to confidentiality.

Humility: It takes humility to invite others to speak into your life, and to allow others to hold you accountable.

Boldness: Often holding one another accountable is not easy, and it takes boldness to intentionally speak truth into someone’s life.

Love: Although accountability and speaking truth are at the center of an effective Prayer Triad, those actions cannot be done without love. The environment of every Prayer Triad should be one of love, acceptance and loyalty.

Dependability: Although no one is perfect, it is hard to trust and go deep with a group that is not reliable. Each Prayer Triad should set expectations for how often they will meet, and each member should then respect their group by being dependable.

 

+ Suggested Questions for Prayer triads

How have things been going since the last time we met? What has gone well? What has not gone well?

How are you doing spiritually (corporate worship, time in God’s word, time in prayer)? Is your walk with the Lord presently best characterized by duty or delight?

How are the key relationships in your life (family, friends, co-workers)?

How are you doing in your relationship with your spouse (time, communication, attitude, intimacy)? How are they doing in their walk with the Lord?

How are you doing in your relationships with your children (loving them, teaching them, pointing them to the Lord, disciplining them)?

How have you struggled with temptation since the last time we met? What sins do you need to confess?

How does the Gospel apply to what you are going through? In what ways are you believing the Gospel? In what ways are you struggling to believe the Gospel?

How are your relationships with unbelievers? Have you shared the gospel recently? What friends can we be praying for?

How does the Lord need to grow you right now (service, evangelism, study, pursuing community)?

 

+ Testimonials

“When I joined Uptown Church, I discovered the gift of belonging to a Prayer Triad. What I have found in my Prayer Triad is deep friendship, accountability, healing and raw honesty about living the Christian life. Being able to live out James 5:16 with dear friends has been a real blessing to me.”

-Christy Talamo, member since 2006

My Prayer Triad is a place where I reveal my sinful, sanctifying heart, and the Lord blesses and molds me through my Christian brothers. I also recommend Prayer Triads to others because of the way the Lord can use them to grow deep community roots.”

-Matt Tringali, member since 2002

I am grateful that I have been in my Prayer Triad for over six years. Our Prayer Triad has enabled us to enter into each other’s lives in intimate ways, to walk through different seasons and to share together in our sufferings as well as our joys. I would recommend a Prayer Triad as a tangible way to experience Matthew 18:20 – “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”

-Peggy Chapman, member since 1998

“Being a part of a group that knows the depths of your sin, that loves you and that challenges you can be such a means of embracing the grace of God while simultaneously weakening the bondage of sin and shame. I would recommend that everyone in Uptown Church be involved in a Prayer Triad.”

Dave Kulp, Pastor at Uptown Church since 2008, member since 2005

 

 

Contact Information

Associate Pastor, Dave Kulp

Email: davekulp@uptownchurch.org   Phone: 704.564.8184